tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25422068.post114591008625170459..comments2023-11-03T08:44:12.478-07:00Comments on James' Random, Stimulating, Missional, Spiritual Thoughts: Stress and AddictionJames Noredhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13707292759635770946noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25422068.post-1145998506798259852006-04-25T13:55:00.000-07:002006-04-25T13:55:00.000-07:00I thought that was YOU in the picture :)I thought that was YOU in the picture :)Dale's Spothttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03825281907123549557noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25422068.post-1145977992771346162006-04-25T08:13:00.000-07:002006-04-25T08:13:00.000-07:00Queen,Great advice on dealing with stress. We all...Queen,<BR/><BR/>Great advice on dealing with stress. We all try to fix things that are out of our control. I think that this is one of Satan's tools. <BR/><BR/>One of the areas we most fall down in is having people around us who are close enough to us to see us through difficult times. People with whom we can be transparent and trust with our difficulties. Men struggle most with this. Ninety percent of American men say that they have no close friends. We have to do a better job of this in the church.James Noredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13707292759635770946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25422068.post-1145934144876730102006-04-24T20:02:00.000-07:002006-04-24T20:02:00.000-07:00I think stress is a lot like squeezing an orange. ...I think stress is a lot like squeezing an orange. A little pressure produces juice. A lot of pressure produces alot of juice but it quickly runs out and you are left with a nasty pulpy mess. <BR/>A little stress allows us to get papers done on time, a sermon finished by Sunday, bills paid before the service is shut off, the house cleaned on short notice for company, a sick child to the hospital quickly, etc. Once the activity has been accomplished then we go back to the status quo.<BR/><BR/>However, when stress doesn't fade away, when we keep getting squeezed, we are headed, sometimes rather quickly, to the nasty-pulpy-mess stage. This may not happen over night, it might even take years. BUT, if left unchecked, the juice runs out. You will be sick, alone, medicated or worse.... divorced, addicted, or dead. <BR/>Having experienced this in my marriage...(not the dead part-obviously) I have chosen to adopt three rules to deal with stress & stressors. <BR/>1) have a firm,unshakeable faith in God and make that my priority. <BR/>2) realize that most of the stress in my life comes from trying to fix things for other people instead of praying for them and allowing God (not me) to handle it. It is allowing people the oportunity to grow through adversity instead of rescueing them. (There is a time when the ship is sinking and you have to help! The kicker is having the wisdom and mercy to know when it's helping and when it's enabling. I am still working on that one!)<BR/>3) surround myself w/strong christian people that can encourage me and can hold me accountable. I ask for their opinions.... even when I know my toes may get stepped on.<BR/>Wait!! There is a fourth one. <BR/>4) Don't procrastinate. It is difficult to separate the things you need to tackle "right now" from the choices that need to "percolate" awhile before you make them. <BR/>I can hear Kenny Rogers righ now.... "Know when to hold em. Know when to fold em. Know when to walk away. Know when to run."<BR/>(yeah, I know..... you're hummin' it, aren't ya)Cynthiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03083790643559402590noreply@blogger.com